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		<title>Question from a reader: How do I deal with petty complainers?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2011 15:08:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A reader asks: Q: I enjoy my work but have no tolerance for petty people and this place is filled with them. They constantly complain about each other. What makes it worse is that the department head seems to buy into whatever is being said so now she’s part of the problem. I try to [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Q: I enjoy my work but have no tolerance for petty people and this place is filled with them. They constantly complain about each other. What makes it worse is that the department head seems to buy into whatever is being said so now she’s part of the problem. I try to stay out of it but it’s inescapable. I know I need to find a job somewhere else but why should I give up what I enjoy because of their stupid behavior? Should I try to handle the situation or just give up? <br />- D.E. </strong></p>
<p><strong>A:</strong> Before you give up on your current situation let’s look at what might be fixable right where you are. In order to do that, examine the challenge and separate the issues. <br />You’re working with a bunch of squabblers who are creating more negativity than you can reasonably tolerate.</p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; ">You try to stay out of it.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; ">Your boss has become part of the problem instead of part of the solution.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; ">You don’t know whether to stay and ignore it or find work somewhere else. <br /></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; ">Squabblers: Most employees who spend more time arguing with each other than getting the job done want the person in charge to take charge. Everyone’s a bit different. Some people need more structure; others less. Some want to know exactly what the boss expects; others want room to maneuver. Some need attention; others want to be left alone. The chaos occurs in the absence of clear leadership: everyone talks about what they want and no one listens and acts on what they’re saying.</span></p>
<p>You said that your boss “buys into whatever is being said and now she’s part of the problem”. When a boss takes sides, she’s not leading, she’s following. If she doesn’t clarify organizational and departmental goals, roles, and expectations, her employees operate in a vacuum. In that void, they’ll take their frustrations out on each other, with one or several vying for control.</p>
<p>Some people prefer to find fault and place blame when things are going badly. Others want to stay out of the fray, hoping that avoiding it will somehow make it tolerable. Hopefully, more of your colleagues prefer solutions to problems and would like to get back to work.</p>
<p>If you’re one of the latter and are willing to make an honest effort at leading change, there’s a significant role you can play: Listen to the complainers. I realize their gripes sound petty to you but they’re important to the people making them. Listen for themes in the information you hear. Pay attention to what you see. Call a group meeting. Describe your observations, without judgement. Ask for confirmation where you’re on target and clarification when you’re not. Help the group separate the issues that individuals have with each other from the larger issues the group may have with the boss or the company. Ask for a few volunteers (too many can be overwhelming and nonproductive) to present the group’s concerns to the boss.</p>
<p>Then make an appointment with her. Describe the purpose of the meeting, and ask if she’d like to see a written summary of the ideas the group would like to explore with her. Be sure to include suggestions for solutions the group agrees would benefit everyone: the individuals, the department, and the company. Indicate the group’s desire to work with her and each other in making things right for everyone.</p>
<p>Change takes effort, time, and patience. Everyone, including you, who are involved in the process needs to feel convinced that changing behaviors will result in better outcomes.</p>
<p>Should you leave or should you stay? For the near term, if you have the energy and grit, give the group and their solutions a chance to work. If you’ve given it your best shot and nothing changes, it’s time to look for an environment that better matches who you are and what you need.</p>
<p>Good luck. And let us know how it turns out.</p>
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<p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Yes</strong>! You may use this article by Executive and Career Coach, Joyce Richman, in your blog, newsletter or website as long as you include the following bio box:</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Joyce Richman</strong> (<a href="http://www.richmanresources.com/" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>) has been specializing in executive and career coaching since she started her own practice in 1982. She works in a variety of environments including: higher education, manufacturing, sales, marketing, media, technology, pharmaceuticals, medicine, banking and finance, service, IT, and non-profit sectors. A member of the adjunct faculty at the Center for Creative Leadership, Joyce is certified to administer a number of feedback and psychological instruments. Joyce is a weekly guest on WFMY-TV and the career columnist for The Greensboro News &amp; Record. She is the author of Roads, Routes and Ruts: A Guidebook to Career Success and co-author of Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. A popular speaker, Richman conducts seminars and workshops throughout the United States, Canada andEurope. Her coaching profile can be found at <a href="http://www.thecoachingassociation.com/coach/joyce_richman/" target="_blank">TheCoachingAssociation.com</a>.</p>
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		<title>Guide for Boomerang Parents Receives Review</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Sep 2011 17:59:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The slow to no-growth economy and high unemployment rates have kids of all ages returning to their parents&#8217; homes as they transition from college to work or from lost job to new job. Co-authors Joyce Richman and Barbara Demarest have been getting some attention for their guidebook, Getting Your Kid Out of the House and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"><em>The slow to no-growth economy and high unemployment rates have kids of all ages returning to their parents&#8217; homes as they transition from college to work or from lost job to new job. Co-authors Joyce Richman and Barbara Demarest have been getting some attention for their guidebook, Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job, which they wrote to help parents deal with these times of transition in their children&#8217;s lives. Steve Sumerford recently reviewed the book in the </em><a style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;" href="http://www.news-record.com/" target="_blank">Greensboro News &amp; Record</a><em> the title is </em><strong>Tips for dealing with kids who say, &#8216;I&#8217;m coming back&#8217;</strong><em><strong> </strong>and we&#8217;ve republished it here:</em></span></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Tips for dealing with kids who say, &#8216;I&#8217;m coming back&#8217;</span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">People all over the country are finding solace, encouragement and a passel of practical tips from a small paperback written by two Greensboro authors, <a href="http://www.joycerichman.com" target="_blank">Joyce Richman</a> and <a href="http://www.barbarademarest.com" target="_blank">Barbara Demarest</a>. With decades of executive and career coaching between them, the pair teamed up to address a very timely topic, &#8220;boomerang kids,&#8221; a term coined a few years ago to describe adults, who, for a variety of reasons, have to move back in with their parents.<br />
A recent CNN Money story reported that 85 percent of last year&#8217;s college graduates say they would move back home with their parents if they couldn&#8217;t find a job.</p>
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<div>Even more disturbing is that the boomerang kids these days might not just be recent grads. During a recent interview with the authors, Richman told me that she&#8217;s &#8220;getting calls from parents saying that it&#8217;s their 40 or 50-year-old child who has moved back home because he or she is unemployed. This can create extraordinary stress for the whole family.&#8221;</div>
<div>All of these parents need to get their hands on <em>&#8220;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Your-Kid-House-Into/dp/0984199411/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1315330707&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job: A Parent&#8217;s Guide to the School-to-Work Transition</a>&#8220;</em> (TheCoachingAssociation.com). In less than 70 pages Richman and Demarest have created not only an excellent toolkit of tips and exercises, but they have also packed it with insightful stories that will help parents better understand and deal with the intense emotional dynamics of the situation.</div>
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<div id="attachment_559" class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 275px"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Your-Kid-House-Into/dp/0984199411/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1315330707&amp;sr=8-1"><img class="size-medium wp-image-559" title="CoverKidOutSmall" src="http://www.richmanresources.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/CoverKidOutSmall-265x300.png" alt="" width="265" height="300" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job</p></div>
<p>&#8220;The stories are also there,&#8221; Demarest told me,&#8221; to say to the parents, &#8216;Your problem is not unique, you&#8217;re not alone.&#8221;</p>
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<div id="_mcePaste">Demarest and Richman point out that often the parents&#8217; own dears and career experiences can interfere with their ability to provide the most effective support and objective advice. When the child moves back into his or her old bedroom, the parents may begin to worry that there will be &#8220;eternal dependency, financial difficulty, community embarrassment and no privacy.&#8221; The boomerang child, they point out, has exactly the same concerns.</div>
<div>Because she is a well-known career counselor, Richman regularly gets calls from parents. &#8220;I&#8217;ve always gotten these kinds of calls but the tenor of them has changed in recent years. I hear more stress and fear in their voices,&#8221; Richman said.</div>
<div>The crisp writing style of &#8220;<em>Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job</em>&#8221; makes it very readable and useful for any parent. The tips are down-to-earth and practical, such as what not to eat if your potential emploer takes you to lunch (stay away from messy food; don&#8217;t order expensive items). The guide is also peppered with exercises &#8212; how to role-play the interview with your child or help create an &#8220;elevator speech&#8221; (a two-minute overview of the child&#8217;s education and qualifications).</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">The authors remind readers that it is important for the parents also to have an elevator speech, so that they will have a strong answer when concerned friends and family repeatedly ask questions like, &#8220;Well, has your son found a job yet?&#8221;</div>
<div>Richman and Demarest aren&#8217;t family therapists, but i dare say that if parents followed the advice in this guide, not only will they help their child get a job, but their relationship with that child will be closer and family ties will be stronger.</div>
<div>You can pick up a copy of &#8220;<em>Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job</em>&#8221; at any branch of the Greensboro Public Library. And, don&#8217;t miss the opportunity to meet the authors and have an informal conversation with them at 7 p.m. Sept. 20 at the <a href="http://greensboro-nc.gov/index.aspx?page=807">Central Library</a>, 219 N. Church St.</div>
<div>See you at the library.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste"><em><a href="http://www.news-record.com/whois/steve_sumerford" target="_blank">Steve Sumerford</a> (steve.sumerford@greensboro-nc.gov) is assistant director of the Greensboro Public Library. Decimal Points is a regular feature of the Books page.</em></div>
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		<title>Joyce Richman on VoiceAmerica</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Dec 2010 01:36:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Joyce Richman was interviewed by Intuition Trainer and Conversations With Yourself Radio Host, Joyce Anderson last week.  They covered topics related to job search and finding the right career path during transition. To hear the recorded version of the radio program, you can log in to the VoiceAmerica internet radio system by clicking on the [...]]]></description>
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<div>Joyce Richman was interviewed by Intuition Trainer and <em>Conversations With Yourself </em>Radio Host, Joyce Anderson last week.  They covered topics related to job search and finding the right career path during transition.<span id="more-1794"></span></div>
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<div>To hear the recorded version of the radio program, you can log in to the VoiceAmerica internet radio system by clicking on the link below:</div>
<div><a title="Dec 9, 2010 Conversations with Yourself Radio Program" href="http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=50317" target="_blank">http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=50317</a></div>
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		<title>Heads Up &#8211; The Future Has Landed</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 05 Oct 2010 15:28:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Frank needs some help and no one here seems to be able to get through to him. I asked Frank&#8217;s boss to describe the problem. His response told me more about what it wasn&#8217;t than what it was.&#8220;Frank&#8217;s not rude or withdrawn; he&#8217;s not outspoken or overbearing. He never gets angry. The guy is very [...]]]></description>
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<p><em>Frank needs some help and no one here seems to be able to get through to him.</em></p>
<p>I asked Frank&#8217;s boss to describe the problem. His response told me more about what it wasn&#8217;t than what it was.<br />&#8220;Frank&#8217;s not rude or withdrawn; he&#8217;s not outspoken or overbearing. He never gets angry. The guy is very intelligent. He understands how our business works and does what it takes to get his job done. We could let him stay here and rock along, but we&#8217;re not going to do that. We&#8217;re looking for leaders. Here, it&#8217;s up or out. The way he&#8217;s going, it&#8217;s going to be &#8220;out&#8221;. He&#8217;s a bright guy, so that&#8217;s a real waste of  time and talent, for us and for him.&#8221;</p>
<p>As directors go,  Frank was young; maybe early thirties. A senior vice president, who felt that his protégé needed to improve his leadership skills, had referred him. <br />My initial reaction to Frank was that he just didn&#8217;t project much. He answered my questions by saying as little as possible. Whatever the subject, he offered no spark, reaction or comment that revealed his state of mind or sense of  well being.</p>
<p>He did provide an opening when he described positions  he had held when working for a former company.  Those job requirements demanded  skills and abilities 180 degrees from those he was currently using. I asked which roles he preferred and he responded simply &#8220;it doesn&#8217;t matter.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;It doesn&#8217;t matter?&#8221; I pushed back. &#8220;How can it not matter?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Nothing matters if all you&#8217;re trying to do is earn enough money to  retire before your work kills you.&#8221;</p>
<p>And that was his bottom line. We just got there faster than I thought we would. Now he started to open up.</p>
<p>Frank had career dexterity. He was competent in whatever position he worked while not excelling in any. Frank had pride in his ability to adapt to the circumstance he faced. His early childhood experiences trained him to keep his head down, get his chores done, and stay out of trouble. Success in his first few jobs continued the pattern: keep your head down, get your job done, and stay out of trouble.</p>
<p>In order to sustain himself, Frank chose one goal worthy of such self restraint: earn enough money to retire early and live whatever life was left.</p>
<p>That worked as long as he was part of a command and control organization. The game changed when he changed companies.</p>
<p>The new rules required that he work through his direct reports, empowering them to do and be more. The new company&#8217;s culture was about trust and communication at all levels and to all people. To succeed, Frank would have to put his future and his confidence into the hands of the people that he managed.</p>
<p>As capable as Frank was, nothing had  prepared him for working in an organization that forced you out of the trenches. The lights were on and Frank couldn&#8217;t find the dimmer switch.</p>
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<li>Leading others is about more than getting the job done while watching the bottom line.</li>
<li>Leaders must develop different strengths from those they relied upon earlier in their careers.</li>
<li>Leaders take calculated risks, learn from their mistakes, and keep going.</li>
<li>Leaders encourage and empower others to take chances and to learn from the mistakes they are going to make.</li>
<li>Leaders provide others the training to learn and opportunity to work out the kinks.</li>
<li>Leaders don&#8217;t have all the answers; they just have most of the questions.</li>
<li>Leaders keep their egos in check  by realizing that their success is sustained and enhanced by the best and the brightest around them.They learn to take care of each other.</li>
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<p>Making it, in today&#8217;s workplace, is about much more than keeping your head down, working hard, and staying out of trouble. If that&#8217;s been your pattern up to now,  heads-up. The future has landed.</p>
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<p>Yes! You may use this article by Executive and Career Coach, Joyce Richman, in your blog, article in your blog, newsletter or website as long as you include the following bio box:</p>
<p>Joyce Richman (<a href="http://www.richmanresources.com/" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>) has been specializing in executive and career coaching since she started her own practice in 1982. She works in a variety of environments including: higher education, manufacturing, sales, marketing, media, technology, pharmaceuticals, medicine, banking and finance, service, IT, and non-profit sectors. A member of the adjunct faculty at the Center for Creative Leadership, Joyce is certified to administer a number of feedback and psychological instruments. Joyce is a weekly guest on WFMY-TV and the career columnist for The Greensboro News &amp; Record. She is the author of Roads, Routes and Ruts: A Guidebook to Career Success and co-author of Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. A popular speaker, Richman conducts seminars and workshops throughout the United States, Canada and Europe. Her coaching profile can be found at <a href="http://www.thecoachingassociation.com/coach/joyce_richman/" target="_blank">TheCoachingAssociation.com</a>.</p>
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		<title>Try a Day of Trust</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Sep 2010 17:56:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[She’s too smart, she makes you feel stupid. He’s too quiet; you don’t know what he’s thinking. She won’t shut up; she won’t let you think. He thinks so much; he doesn’t care. She cares so much she doesn’t think. It’s just never good enough, is it? You’re either too much of this or too [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>She’s too smart, she makes you feel stupid.</em></p>
<p><em>He’s too quiet; you don’t know what he’s thinking.</em></p>
<p><em>She won’t shut up; she won’t let you think.</em></p>
<p><em>He thinks so much; he doesn’t care.</em></p>
<p><em>She cares so much she doesn’t think.</em></p>
<p>It’s just never good enough, is it?</p>
<p>You’re either too much of this or too little of that and you want to just be left alone to do your job.</p>
<p>I hear you.</p>
<p>I really do hear you. I get calls every day from people who are over the top with the stress they’re feeling at work, at home, or from the news. And they want a break.</p>
<p>So let’s give them one. Give yourselves a break. For one day, let it go. Let go of the finger pointing, head shaking, eye rolling, that only makes it harder on everyone to be creative, productive, and successful. For one day, stop competing against each other and start collaborating with each other.</p>
<p>Instead of finding fault, find something to value. How hard is it, for just one day?</p>
<p><em>I don’t trust her.</em></p>
<p><em>He doesn’t trust me.</em></p>
<p><em>We don’t trust them</em></p>
<p><em>They don’t trust us.</em></p>
<p>Give it up. For just one day. Trust somebody. Trust that for this one day no one is trying to do you in, stab you in the back, steal your ideas, or make your life miserable.</p>
<p>For this one day, be okay with yourself and the people you work with. Be okay with your boss and the company that still writes the checks.</p>
<p>Model behavior that builds up and doesn’t tear down.</p>
<p>Talk about what people need to hear before you talk about what you want to say.</p>
<p>Get tough on problems and go easy on people.</p>
<p>Be strong without having to make others weak.</p>
<p>Be right without acting self righteous.</p>
<p>If you made the wrong call, own it, fix it, learn from it, and say so.</p>
<p>Separate the wrong call from being wrong; and the right call and being right.</p>
<p>Separate who you are from what you do.</p>
<p>Let the baggage go. For just one day.</p>
<p>If you’re the boss, get out of your office, find your employees, talk to them, let them talk to you, and listen to what they say. They want you to know how stressed they are, so let them. They want you to say where “next” and “there” is, so tell them. It’s your job to set the tone and the direction. If you don’t have answers to the questions they ask, say so, and answer the questions they haven’t asked but need to know. The want to have the picture and they want a part to play in the solution. Give it to them.</p>
<p>Wherever you work, show up, stand up and step up. Prioritize objectives, focus on what you can control, and take action. Ask questions, find answers, and there aren’t any available, take the lead, put together a plan, and work that plan, because when it comes down to it, you’re the one accountable for your future.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 14:31:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My August 8, 2010 career column in the Greensboro News &#38; Record, entitled, &#8220;Excuses Get You Nowhere,&#8221; generated a few responses that I wanted to share with blog readers.  First, a few summary bullet points of the column if you don&#8217;t have time to click through to the News &#38; Record: Excuses, no matter how [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My August 8, 2010 career column in the <a title="Excuses Get You Nowhere" href="http://www.news-record.com/content/2010/08/06/article/joyce_richman_excuses_get_you_nowhere" target="_blank"><em>Greensboro News &amp; Record</em></a>, entitled, &#8220;Excuses Get You Nowhere,&#8221; generated a few responses that I wanted to share with blog readers.  First, a few summary bullet points of the column if you don&#8217;t have time to click through to the <em>News &amp; Record</em>:</p>
<ul>
<li>Excuses, no matter how valid, justified or prevalent, are your own worst enemy in finding a job.</li>
<li>Take your excuses and find a way to respond to them.  The article gives a few ideas of how to do that.</li>
<li>Take the time to know what you have to offer, come up with a positive and succinct way to present yourself to employers and then maintain a great attitude while doing it.</li>
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<h3>From a reader responding to the, &#8220;I can&#8217;t get a job because I am too old&#8221; excuse:</h3>
<p> </p>
<blockquote><div id="_mcePaste">Thank you so much for taking the time to send this to me. I found it so interesting and really wanted to keep it because the time is coming soon that I will be out hitting the pavement looking for a job. I know I will voice these same excuses when I don&#8217;t get the job I want.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">I just recently graduated Practical Nursing and am taking my boards soon and might even go back to school to finish a degree in Office Systems Technology, haven&#8217;t decided yet.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">I am going to print this out to remind me that although I am fifty-seven years old, I am still the person for the job..</div>
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<h3>From a reader responding to the &#8220;I can&#8217;t get hired because I don&#8217;t have any experience&#8221; excuse:</h3>
<blockquote><p>I was given your article in the 8/8/2010 News and Record to read.  It is entitled &#8220;Excuses get you nowhere.&#8221;  I have a question regarding your recommendation of how to respond when applying for jobs, when one does not have job experience.  It seems as though many job listings state that experience is required.  Are you implying that one should apply and then address the issue of lack of experience?  If so, this could also be interpreted as the applicant not having the ability to follow directions.  Thanks in advance for your clarification of this point.</p>
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<h3>And my thoughts&#8230;</h3>
<p> </p>
<p>Thanks for writing and thanks in advance for being open to pursuing job opportunities in ways other than responding to on line postings&#8230; (the hardest way to get a job).</p>
<p>Consider this: the numbers of graduate and undergraduate contacts you&#8217;ve made through your academic progression.</p>
<p>The numbers of professors, instructors, and practitioners with whom you have worked and studied all these years.</p>
<p>Each of them likely know someone or several  who are in the field you are training to enter&#8230; who can not only refer you, but can be a reference for you&#8230; for a conversation, if not an interview.</p>
<p>This is the best way for you to find an opportunity that will provide you that essential &#8216;experience&#8217;.</p>
<p>No matter the business, industry, or area of specialization, people hire people. Relationships count.</p>
<p>Use them, in the best sense possible.</p>
<p>I appreciate all the emails and blog comments from readers &#8212; keep them coming!</p>
<div>
<div><strong>Joyce Richman and Associates, Ltd.</strong></div>
<div><strong>jerichman@aol.com</strong></div>
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<div>For information about career and executive coaching programs and services, check out my website at <a title="Joyce Richman's website" href="http://www.joycerichman.com" target="_blank">www.joycerichman.com</a>.</div>
<div>While you&#8217;re at it, visit my blog, read my columns, and order my latest book from Amazon, <a title="Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job - Amazon" href="Joyce Richman and Associates, Ltd. 336-288-1799  For information about career and executive coaching programs and services, check out my website at www.joycerichman.com. While you're at it, visit my blog, read my columns, and order my latest book, Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. It's all at www.richmanresources.com." target="_blank"><em>Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job</em></a>. It&#8217;s all at <a title="Richman Resources Blog" href="http://www.richmanresources.com" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>.</div>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Aug 2010 17:12:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[By the time we arrived at our old family home we were bone tired. It was good to get off the road and open the door to a safe place of summer reflection. It was the perfect occasion to reminisce… I was entering elementary school and I still didn’t talk. I was born into a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>By the time we arrived at our old family home we were bone tired. It was good to get off the road and open the door to a safe place of summer reflection. It was the perfect occasion to reminisce…</p>
<p>I was entering elementary school and I still didn’t talk. I was born into a family that was extroverted, emotional, musical, and exhausting. There was so much commotion in our house I had no desire to contribute to it. So I didn’t.</p>
<p>My first grade teacher didn’t seem to think it was odd that I didn’t say anything. She assigned me a desk, made sure I got lunch, and went on with the day. The year ended as it began.</p>
<p>Our second grade teacher was magical. She looked like Snow White and children whistled while they worked. She was young, happy, and smart. Or seemed to be, despite the fact that she didn’t seem to understand that I had nothing to say.</p>
<p>She’d ask me a question about arithmetic or spelling, wait for an answer, and act as though I gave one. The children, exasperated at her effort or frustrated with her innocence, repeatedly groaned, “Joyce doesn’t talk.&#8221; If she noticed she didn’t show it. Instead, she’d nod her approval and call on the next child. The same would happen at recess, which I’d spend situated in the crook of big shade tree. She’d stop by to visit, listen to me think, nod, smile, and continue her rounds.</p>
<p>We were nearing the end of the school year when she announced we were going to turn our favorite story, Hansel and Gretel into a play and… before she could finish her sentence the children went wild, waving their arms, vying for starring roles. She ignored the outburst. “Jimmy will play Hansel,&#8221; she said, “Susan will play Gretel, and the Witch will be played by…” the room hushed as she named the last of three cast-members, the one all remaining second graders now aspired…</p>
<p>“Joyce,&#8221; she said. Well, that did it. The class revolted. “JOYCE DOESN’T TALK!!!!” She was not moved. Her decision was final. The play would begin right after lunch.</p>
<p>She perched a hat on Hansel, tied an apron on Gretel, and tucked me inside the shimmery folds of her beautiful, black silk coat. I was perfectly, absolutely invisible.</p>
<p>It was show time. Hansel and Gretel, lost in the woods, made their way to the witch’s house where I, concealed inside the teacher’s coat, awaited them. That’s when it happened.</p>
<p>The witch cackled. She cackled, I cackled! Out loud, in a very scary, very convincing witch’s voice… and no one, not Hansel or Gretel, responded. Wondering where they all went, I peered out from my hiding place just as they cried out, “Joyce can talk!” They jumped up and down, hugged each other and best of all, they hugged me.</p>
<p>At our old family home, sitting in the midst of childhood memories, I received a phone call from my teacher, who is now 81. She was going through a scrapbook, found a letter I had written a very long time ago, telling her what she had meant to me. She wanted me to know what that letter meant to her.</p>
<p>My teacher, Jean House, had talent, grace, curiosity, intuition, infinite patience, and she changed my life. She taught school that one year and I had the extraordinary good fortune to have been one of her students.</p>
<h2>To you who teach, who tutor, coach or mentor, from those of us who have benefited from your care, concern, and wisdom… we want you to know how much you have touched our lives.</h2>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 May 2010 14:28:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s frustrating to send your resume to dozens, even hundreds of job openings and not get a response. It’s frustrating to interview and not get a call back that tells you where you stand. It’s humbling to feel as though you’re being judged and maddening to feel that you have no way to control the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s frustrating to send your resume to dozens, even hundreds of job openings and not get a response. It’s frustrating to interview and not get a call back that tells you where you stand. It’s humbling to feel as though you’re being judged and maddening to feel that you have no way to control the outcome. What can you do to shift your emotional responses to tactical actions? Eliminate one frustration at a time. For example:</p>
<p>If you’re not getting responses when you send out unsolicited resumes, stop sending them. Mass mailings don’t work; they cost too much time, postage, and emotional capital for little to no return on investment. If you want to tap into the “hidden” job market, get away from your computer and get back into the world. Increase your visibility, meet with upbeat people who know people who hire people. Tell them what you do, how you make a difference, and ask for their advice as to who to call and what to say.</p>
<p>If you’re sending resumes to bona fide job openings that you’re finding on line or in the newspapers and you’re not hearing much in return, you’ll increase your response rate if your stated experience and accomplishments match the published opportunity. Include the job description’s key words in both your objective and the body of your resume.</p>
<p>If you’re sending your resumes to openings where the match ought to be obvious; you think you’re doing everything right; and you’re still not getting any responses, you need assistance from an objective third party. Here’s what you want to know: <em>Does the objective on my resume clearly state the job I want and does my resume demonstrate my ability to succeed in that job?</em> If the candid response is “no”, don’t wait. Request help from a professional career coach.</p>
<p>First it’s flattering, then frustrating, then exhausting, and finally a conclusive blow to your self-esteem and your billfold to be asked to interview, not once but several times with the same employer, and to never be told the outcome. Shame on company representatives who are so remiss in their duties as to allow this to happen. Having said that, there are actions beleaguered applicants can take in hopes of getting closure: 1) send a self-addressed stamped postcard to the decision maker. Request a check marked response to one of the following statements:</p>
<p>1. Yes, we are interested in your candidacy and we will be in touch.<br />
2. No, we are no longer interested in your candidacy at this time.</p>
<p>Or place a call to the decision maker (a polite voice mail message will do) being sure to include your name and telephone number say: “I interviewed for the XYZ position on (provide the time and date of the interview). As I have not heard from you regarding the outcome I am concluding that you are no longer interested in my candidacy and will I continue my search elsewhere. Thank you for your kind consideration.”</p>
<p>If they’re interested, they’ll call. If they aren’t, they won’t. That may be all the closure you’re likely to get but it beats the alternative. Either way, you’ve taken control of the situation, your emotions are in check, and you’re determined to keep looking until you get an offer from a company that wants you, needs you, and shows it.</p>
<p>It’s tempting to want to take a few days or even weeks off from your search after you’ve had an interview and while you’re waiting to hear the results. Delay that gratification. Stay on course, stay focused, keep networking, and keep looking until you get the offer that’s worth the effort it took to get it.</p>
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<p><strong>Yes</strong>! You may use this article <span style="font-family: 'times new roman';"><span style="font-size: small;">by Executive and Career Coach, Joyce Richman, in </span></span><span style="font-family: 'times new roman';"><span style="font-size: small;">your blog</span></span>, newsletter or website as long as you include the following bio box:</p>
<p><strong>Joyce Richman</strong> (<a href="http://www.richmanresources.com" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>) has been specializing in executive and career coaching since she started he own practice in 1982. She works in a variety of environments including: higher education, manufacturing, sales, marketing, media, technology, pharmaceuticals, medicine, banking and finance, service, IT, and non-profit sectors. A member of the adjunct faculty at the Center for Creative Leadership, Joyce is certified to administer a number of feedback and psychological instruments. Joyce is a weekly guest on WFMY-TV and the career columnist for The Greensboro News &amp; Record. She is the author of Roads, Routes and Ruts: A Guidebook to Career Success and co-author of Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. A popular speaker, Richman conducts seminars and workshops throughout the United States, Canada and Europe. Her coaching profile can be found at <a href="http://www.thecoachingassociation.com/coach/joyce_richman/" target="_blank">TheCoachingAssociation.com</a>.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:12:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Q: “I’ve recently been released from prison and want to get back into my profession. I’ve been trying to re hone my skills but given my felony record am I just spinning my wheels? What do I say when I’m asked about the lapse in my employment? A. You’re not spinning your wheels, you will [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><em>Q:</em></strong> “I’ve recently been released from prison and want to get back into my profession. I’ve been trying to re hone my skills but given my felony record am I just spinning my wheels? What do I say when I’m asked about the lapse in my employment?</p>
<p><strong><em>A.</em></strong> You’re not spinning your wheels, you will find employment, and you will have some real challenges ahead. Let’s start with the first hurdles to overcome, and go from there:</p>
<p>Responsible employers will not want to put you, their employees, or the public the company serves, into situations that create the perception, real or imagined, of danger. Therefore, sit down with your parole officer and counselor before you interview. Identify work environments and interpersonal situations to avoid and those that are appropriate to approach. Candidly discuss the reasonable, practical, and emotional concerns that prospective employers and their employees might have, given your recent history. Prepare yourself to respond to those fears in ways that not only demonstrate self-awareness, but also describe the conscious changes you’ve made in your behavior and your ability to respond to others.</p>
<p>Address the lapses in your employment history in a truthful and straightforward way. You mentioned <em>“rehoning your skills.”</em> Describe how you’ve continued your education during and following the time you were imprisoned; and the preparations you have made for the career direction you are taking. Describe your past accomplishments and your ability to contribute to the future success of the company you’d like to join.</p>
<p>Your challenge, and it’s a big one, is getting the interviewer to focus on what you’re saying and not on where you’ve been and what got you there.</p>
<p>To accomplish that, address what concerns them most. Ask prospective employers to ask you any and all work related questions or concerns they have relative to your history in or out of prison. Ask them to describe the challenges they believe you will confront at their place of business. Then answer those concerns in an honest and forthright manner.</p>
<p><strong><em>Q:</em></strong> <em>I’m concerned about the application form. How can I answer the question about felonies so that my job application won’t get tossed as soon as my response is read?</em></p>
<p><strong><em>A:</em></strong> Answer that question and every question truthfully. Will your application be tossed? It’s likely that it will. What can you do about it?</p>
<p>There’s more to all of us than can be demonstrated on an application or resume. Talk to the people who know you best, stood by you, and are willing to take a chance on you. Those individuals, directly or indirectly, may know people who hire people.</p>
<p>You’re asking for a chance to tell an employer your story: your work history, why you were arrested, what you’ve learned as a result, and your efforts to now make good on the rest of your life.</p>
<p><strong><em>Q:</em></strong> <em>How can I regain my self-respect? My confidence is gone. I’m afraid to get out there and tell my story. What can I do to move forward?</em></p>
<p><strong><em>A:</em></strong> I’ve never been in your shoes. I cannot begin to know what you feel. But others have been there. Ask your parole officer and your counselor for help in finding individuals who have been able to make a successful transition and who would be willing to talk with you and counsel you through a very tough time.</p>
<p>I do know this. A comeback takes time, patience and incremental steps. It takes the capacity to accept responsibility and accountability for the choices that you’ve made in the past and will make in the future. It requires asking forgiveness from those you have, by intention or omission, caused physical pain or emotional suffering. It takes reaching out to those who are strong when you’re weak and tender when you’re hurt. It takes all that, and enough people who are willing to say, <em>“I’ll give you another chance.”</em></p>
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<p>Joyce Richman (<a href="http://www.richmanresources.com" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>) has been specializing in executive and career coaching since she started he own practice in 1982. She works in a variety of environments including: higher education, manufacturing, sales, marketing, media, technology, pharmaceuticals, medicine, banking and finance, service, IT, and non-profit sectors. A member of the adjunct faculty at the Center for Creative Leadership, Joyce is certified to administer a number of feedback and psychological instruments. Joyce is a weekly guest on WFMY-TV and the career columnist for The Greensboro News &amp; Record. She is the author of Roads, Routes and Ruts: A Guidebook to Career Success and co-author of Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. A popular speaker, Richman conducts seminars and workshops throughout the United States, Canada and Europe. Her coaching profile can be found at <a href="http://www.thecoachingassociation.com/coach/joyce_richman/" target="_blank">TheCoachingAssociation.com</a>.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:54:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joyce Richman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I bet you know him. He goes to work early and stays late. He&#8217;s known as a company man. He&#8217;s dedicated, loyal, with a work ethic that challenges the most diligent. His only fear is failing health even though he&#8217;s never taken a sick day. (He&#8217;s never had a day that he stayed out sick. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I bet you know him. He goes to work early and stays late. He&#8217;s known as a company man. He&#8217;s dedicated, loyal, with a work ethic that challenges the most diligent. His only fear is failing health even though he&#8217;s never taken a sick day. (He&#8217;s never had a day that he stayed out sick. He&#8217;s had several sick days.)</p>
<p>He’s just been laid off and never saw it coming.</p>
<p>He was starting to think about retirement. Not that he wanted to, but he was losing his edge; slower than he liked, more forgetful, less enthusiastic. It took energy to be enthusiastic. He&#8217;d need to save his energy for nights that he worked late.</p>
<p>Retirement’s gone. He’s been laid off. Now he needs to get a job.</p>
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<p>If this sounds familiar, it is, and you&#8217;re not alone. The good news is, you can get your bearings, you can figure this out if you use your time and energy wisely and think differently than you have before. To get the next job you’ll need to connect with people you haven’t paid attention to in a very long while.</p>
<p>Rejoin your family. You need them to welcome you home. You’ll need to be as vital to them as you’ll soon find they are to you. You’ll want to have a place to be and a role to play. You’ll need to be a wise listener; an empowering husband, and an encouraging father. You want to learn about their life&#8217;s lessons, their struggles, and their successes so they’ll want to care about yours.</p>
<p>Take your time and stay the course. It won&#8217;t happen overnight. You worked your way out of their lives, you&#8217;ll have to earn your way back in, one day at a time.</p>
<p>Rejoin your community. Learn how to connect so you’ll know where to contribute. When you combine who you naturally are, with what you inherently do, and where that combination is needed most, and you give fully of yourself, you will get more in return than you can possibly anticipate.</p>
<p>Expand your thinking. When is the last time you read a book because you wanted to? If it&#8217;s been a long time (or you&#8217;ve never been a reader) you&#8217;re in for quite a surprise. There&#8217;s a world of information waiting for you. Explore and experience learning where other people go to learn. Go to the library, go back to school, go to a play, go to concert, google.</p>
<p>Take care of your heart, your head and your feet. If you&#8217;ve avoided check-ups because doctors tell you what you don’t want to hear, check-in. Tell them you&#8217;re ready to listen. And if they say it&#8217;s OK, lace up your shoes and take a brisk walk. Walk alongside babies in strollers, and dogs on leashes. Wave at children on swings and families on cookouts.</p>
<p>There are extraordinary ordinary people in this world who are ready and willing to assist you in your job search if you will let them know that they are important to you. Not because of what they do, but because of who they are.</p>
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<p>Joyce Richman (<a href="http://www.richmanresources.com" target="_blank">www.richmanresources.com</a>) has been specializing in executive and career coaching since 1982. She works in a variety of environments including: higher education, manufacturing, sales, marketing, media, technology, pharmaceuticals, medicine, banking and finance, service, IT, and non-profit sectors. A member of the adjunct faculty at the Center for Creative Leadership, Joyce is certified to administer a number of feedback and psychological instruments. Joyce is a weekly guest on WFMY-TV and the career columnist for The Greensboro News &amp; Record. She is the author of Roads, Routes and Ruts: A Guidebook to Career Success and co-author of Getting Your Kid Out of the House and Into a Job. A popular speaker, Richman conducts seminars and workshops throughout the United States, Canada and Europe. Her coaching profile can be found at <a href="http://www.thecoachingassociation.com" target="_blank">www.thecoachingassociation.com</a>.</p>
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